Saturday, April 16, 2011

After a perfectly nice day...

Yesterday, at the last minute, I decided to see my first ex-husband anyway and I am glad I did. After not seeing him for 6 years, I had forgotten what a delightful person he was and the monster I had created of him in my mind did not exist. Instead, he was an all American optimist, full of life and positivism and laughter. He was like a breath of fresh air and I think it was especially the American part that appealed to me so. It was so full of freedom. I was genuinely pleased to see him and he was genuinely pleased to see me. We got along well.

That is a good thing because his job is going to be bringing him to this part of the country regularly from now on and we will be seeing him again next month. I can only say that I am pleased about that.

I think it felt so comfortable because we have a shared past, much more so than I have with the Exfactor, and meeting each other seemed to clear the air on a lot of the complications of that. A lot of the load fell off my shoulders and things were much simpler than I had imagined they would be. They were very uncomplicated.

So, you learn a lesson every day. 

And he certainly stood in huge contrast to the Exfactor. There couldn't be two more different people. It's amazing that I married them both, while only one of them is really my type. 

Now I have to go back to bed to sleep some more. I'm not nearly done with that yet. 



Bernie said...

Sometimes those last minute decisions work out for the best and it seems yours did. It is always nice to clear the air, forgive and move forward. It is nice to be friends again especially after being through so much, you have a history together.
Hope you slept well, I am just beginning to drift off. Have a great weekend my friend....:-)Hugs

Twain12 said...

i'm glad it turned into a positive for usually seems the things we dread the most , turn out the best. Is he your children's Father?

Connie Rose said...

I'm so glad to hear the good news. If he was your type, as you said, I'm wondering what went wrong...just a rhetorical question really, as I think most relationships don't last despite our best intentions.
Have a lovely weekend. xox

Maggie May said...

Thats brilliant news. So glad it worked out well.
Maggie X

Nuts in May

Elsie Button said...

that's amazing that after not seeing him for 6 years, you got on well, and enjoyed seeing him, and he's an ex husband - that's lovely, i think

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Anonymous said...

What a nice surprise for you! Sometimes things really do work out for the best. Maybe the marriage thing was never the right thing to do (other than your children, of course), but maybe you and he are destined to be great friends. Who knows?